That’s right, I’m getting political. I was disputing whether or not to bring this shit up, but it actually makes my blood boil.
So, a lovely little policeman decided to tell a group of women “women should avoid dressing like sluts in order not to be victimised”.
We – women – are marching against this bullshit. We’ve had enough of being told that our own bodies and our own sexuality endangers us. We’ve had enough of being blamed for our own traumas, rapes and assaults. We’ve had enough of being called sluts, whores and slags when it’s fucking hot and we want to wear a vest. We’ve had enough of shitty attitudes when we go to the police to report a crime.
Just incase you’ve missed it, here’s the link to the blog.
I’ll admit that I didn’t read the entire thread on MM – after the first two, I was so pissed off I couldn’t actually see straight.
So, why is this on a modeling blog? Well, models, what do you wear on most of your shoots? What do you make your money from? What pays the bills? And bearing in mind that the answers to those questions are – not much, my body and my body, isn’t it a bit rich that so many photographers hold this opinion, and then tell us that it’s unprofessional to have chaperones, that we worry too much about ourselves and that we’re shit stirring when we rightfully tell other models about inappropriate actions of certain photographers? There are walks in the UK – stand up for yourselves and take part.
The usual argument from idiots is ‘well it’s like leaving your car door open in the middle of a dodgy neighbourhood isn’t it? You’d expect to be robbed.’ So…logically…you can expect to be raped if you’re wearing ‘slutty’ clothes? Well, here is a nice bullet-pointed list for you:
- Highly religious countries, where women cover their bodies and even try to avoid being seen by men other than relatives and their husband still have instances of rape – clearly, it’s not helping. In fact, in some communities they just take it a step further and still feel like blaming the woman: http://www.nytimes.com/2008/11/05/world/africa/05somalia.html http://www.news.com.au/top-stories/gang-rape-victim-faces-lashes/story-e6frfkp9-1111113105165 (just off the top of my head)…some communities go further and tattoo crosses onto the women so that they become a ‘holy object’ but even that doesn’t deter rapists
- In the 1930’s, there was a fairly prominent rape case where a red-haired woman was told that she provoked the rape by not wearing a hat (redheads always look like sluts apparently, as long as their hair is showing).
- What are we meant to do in hot weather? One person’s ‘slutty’ is another’s ‘summer clothes’. I know I’ve been told I look slutty in a trouser suit – who’s even defining this shit?
- A woman’s body IS NOT A CAR. It’s not something you ‘leave open’. It’s not something she’s ‘advertising’ (despite what many misogynists and builders may think). Men dress far more ‘provocatively’ in summer and walk around with no tops on at all – not women. We actually cover ourselves more.
- 4% of rapes are committed ‘as a result of provocative behaviour on the part of the victim’ – again, what is the definition here? In murder cases, it’s 20% – bear in mind that ‘looking at me’ is actually put down as provocative behaviour in some instances.
- Most rapists do not remember what the victim was wearing
- Rape victims range from days old, to grannies in their 90s – unless you think nappies or those super-thick granny tights are slutty, you’re out of luck on that one.
- While we’re on that – everything is provocative to someone. Some people are turned on by gym clothes, others by pencil skirts, others like plastic anoraks.
- 97% of women to call rape crisis lines knew their attacker
- 1 in 4 women have experienced rape or attempted rape
- 1 in 7 women have been coerced into sex, rising to 1 in 3 women among divorced or separated women
- The majority of rapes are planned